Here's the story of how I met and fell in love with the love of, not just my life, but for all eternity.
Re-written with more detail on 5/23/00, 6 years and 1 day after our first date
I went to stand in line for KROQ's 2nd Annual Weenie Roast (local radio station) on May 14, 1994 with two of my friends. Roughly 5000 people were in line. One of my friends saw another of his friends closer to the front of the line. I told him to go talk to her to see if we could get in line with her. When she said yes and we joined her I was introduced to the friend she was with, Chris. It turns out my friend went to high school with Chris and at the time was also attending the same college. Well, when I saw Chris, I was in lust. For whatever reason, I knew I had to have him at whatever cost.
My friend played racquetball at the same time Chris played softball so I went to the school under the pretense of watching my friend play racquetball. This got another intro to Chris, but he also seemed to be extra friendly with this other chick, so it didn't look like Chris was ever going to ask me out. My friend told me where Chris worked, and on Sunday, May 22, 1994, I got up the guts and went to his work. I told Chris that I found him attractive and wondered if he go out with me sometime. He said yes and gave me his pager number and we tentavtively, set something up for Friday. He then left for lunch, and I went to my car. Unfortunately, I drove a 1977 Datsun B210 and it decided not to start. I called my friend, who lived nearby, to come and jump my car. Well, he took his sweet time and I was still in the parking lot when Chris got back from lunch. Now, I had to reassure him that I wasn't stalking him, just that my car wouldn't start. So we chatted a little more, and he told me that he bought Dodger tix and the soundtrack to The Crow on his lunch break. I also happen to be a Dodger fan and wanted to see The Crow. So after revealing these little coincidences, Chris asked me to go out that night to see The Crow. Of course I said yes. He went back to work, my car finally started and I went home to nervously figure out what to wear that would cover the sunburn I had gotten that day at the Renaissance Faire.
The First Date
The date started off okay. When I got in the car a U2 song was playing, which happens to be a band I can't stand. Unfortunately, it was a cd, Chris figured anyone who was in line for a KROQ concert listened to U2. But, as much as I dislike them, I really liked Chris and didn't say a word about his choice of music. We went to see the movie The Crow and for most of the movie I sat with my hand palm up on my knee so Chris would get the hint. After a very long time, he finally held my hand for the rest of the movie. After the show ended, I went to the restroom and Chris was waiting for me outside. I went out and he reached for my hand to hold and in it he put a beautiful red rose that he had just bought. Very sweet. We were driving back to my house and just kind of talking about ourselves. He even asked if I was pierced anywhere else besides my belly, I guess he thought I was some wild woman! We enjoyed talking so much that we went out for ice cream. Little did I know that Chris hadn't eaten in hours and was trying very hard not to wolf the ice cream down! The little things we hid from each other back then. After ice cream and lots of talking, Chris drove me home where we parted with a good night kiss.
We knew very early on we were going to get married and often talked about our future together. Three months after we first met, we exchanged promise rings. I knew that I didn't want to be engaged for more than a year so we were holding off on engagement rings until we could set a date.
In June of 1995, Chris and I went on vacation together. We drove up the coast of California to the Redwood Forests and cut across to the middle and drove back down the 5 to San Diego and then back up to our home. We spent 10 solid days together and loved every minute of it. On our 3rd night of vacation we were in San Francisco. When I got out of the shower, Chris told me he had bought me a surprise but that he had hidden it. So by giving me hot and cold directions, I set off to find my surprise. Turns out, it was my engagement ring and he had hidden it in his shoe. When I opened the box, Chris asked me to marry him. I simply said of course, and then hugged and kissed him. I felt so bad about my shabby response that I later wrote Chris a nice letter telling him everything I should have said and what I really meant.
We chose to have our wedding at the Disneyland Hotel for two reasons: I had always wanted an outside wedding, and I got a discount because I worked at Disneyland Park at the time. We were married on July 27, 1996. The date was chosen because I thought July 20something sounded like a good anniversary date. It was the 27th because that happened to be a Saturday. We were married at 11am which no one was happy about because it is very hot in July in California, but, it was my wedding. My wonderful, wonderful mother made my dress, all the bridesmaid and maid of honor dresses, and the flower girl dress. The bridesmaids wore black and white dresses, and the maid of honor, who is my cousin, had red ribbon flower accents on the bodice of hers. The flower girl, my sister, had a white dress with black polka-dots. The groomsmen had black tuxedos and their ties and cumberbunds were a gray with a light Mickey Mouse design. The best man wore a vest that matched. All attendants had red carnations, Chris and I had white roses. The flowers that my flower girl dropped were dried rose petals which happened to be from every rose Chris ever gave me. He gave me 1 on our 1 month dating anniversary, 2 on our 2 month, and so on up until a year. Then, and now, he would just radomly bring me a half dozen red roses. I walked down the aisle to Once Upon a Dream from Sleeping Beauty which was played on the piano by my best friend. Once the music started, I immediately began crying and couldn't stop. There are actually pictures of me walking down the aisle wiping tears off my face. When I got to the gazebo and looked at Chris he turned to me and said "How's the hair?" That's my guy! In the middle of the ceremony, one of our very good friends sang "Have I Told You Lately (that I love you)" by Rod Stewart. After the ceremony, which was performed by a justice of the peace, we had a reception in this beautiful octagon shaped room which had a gazebo for dancing. Our cake toppers were crystal and gold, the top one was a castle in a heart, and the bottom one was Cinderella's horse-drawn pumpkin carriage. Our centerpieces were made by a good friend of mine, they were a black top hat with Mickey ears, and a white Minnie Mouse hat with a veil, with red accents in a glass vase. We had a live band which was made up of very close family friends who play in clubs. They specialize in cover songs. We danced to "Thank You" by Led Zeppelin for our first dance and left the reception after the garter and bouquet toss to the tune of "Rock and Roll All Day" by Kiss. After the wedding was such a feeling of let down, kind of like after Christmas. We heard an ad on the radio for the Orange County Fair and decided to go. It was a great pick-me-up. We stayed that night at the Disneyland Hotel and watched the water show from the balcony of our room. The next day we went to Chris's parents' house where they were having a party for us to open all of our gifts. We stayed at the hotel again that night and the next day left for our honeymoon which is a whole other story that I will save for another time.
I am still as in love with Chris now as I have ever been. I could not ask for a better man. He opens doors for me, carries stuff for me and does what ever I ask. We have an "I cook, he cleans" agreement, and he does more than his share of taking care of the baby. Chris and I share one fault, and that is our desire to spend time with each other. We rarely do anything without the other one, we even grocery shop together. I know some people say being married does not make you siamese twins, but we genuinely prefer eachother's company.
And that's our story. The link to wedding pics is below. Just close that window when you're done to come back here.
Mountains crumble to the sea, there would still be, You and Me.
-Thank You by Led Zeppelin
~Pooh to Christopher Robin in Pooh's Grand Adventure
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